When my students tell me I’m lacking real-world knowledge, I remind them that I taught in prison. They want stories. I give them short snippets, because my kids think they’re hard for shoplifting a pack of gum in plain view of the gas station attendant. And I’m not much harder than they are, but I’ve seen futures. They haven’t.
I tell my kids about Jesus. You know, like our lord and savior. Who was smart enough to laugh when I asked him after our introduction, “Wasn’t that a little presumptuous of your parents?” I ask my boys if they’ve ever been jealous before, and let them know that Jesus was jealous. But, Jesus forgot to turn the other cheek. So he was one of my students. In prison.
I tell my kids about the time I was almost hurt by a white supremacist for requesting that he take his conversation to another classroom. This man was not one of my students, and he was also a lot larger when he stood up. And this man loved the word “cunt”. I do too, but not in my classroom. This very large man let me know that I was in “his house” and he would show me what that meant. My other students protected me until the guards escorted the large man to his new cell.
This is usually enough to let my adolescent, wannabe criminals know that I’ve seen it. I’ve been there. I get it. And if they want to go to prison, they can.
But, the story I’ve never told is the reason I teach my kids. It’s the one person who showed me that everybody is human.
Mr. Wilson couldn’t pronounce my name. It’s how I became Ms. G., because he kept shortening my last name to Gum. The only time he interacted in my classroom was to greet me every day. “Good morning, Ms. Gum.”
“It’s Ms. Gomes.”
“Yes. Ms. Gum.”
“Let’s just say Ms. G.”
One of my students noticed this pattern by the end of my first week. “Miss, he can’t say it. We can call you Gum. You’re Chicle! Hey Chicle!”
And he blushed, sat down, and put his head in his hands. Not wanting to anger a man who had already spent thirty five years in prison, I let it go and moved on with my lesson: How to read and complete a job application in English. Did I mention none of my students could read English very well?
And Mr. Wilson never participated. I tried. I sat with him, I modified my lessons, I cajoled, I gave him a peer partner. He refused, saying, “I can’t do it. Just leave me alone, Chicle.”
We wrote poems and stories at the end of each class. Some of my students would hand them in before leaving, some would borrow a pencil and return the next day with narratives that would break my heart. Mr. Wilson came back empty handed. Every time.
My push-me-pull-you dance with Mr. Wilson continued during my time at the prison until I had to move on because there was a hiring freeze.
On my last day, my students came to class with homemade cards. Some had precious moments-esque drawings on the covers, others depicted praying hands. They must have taken hours to complete, and they’re the only cards I’ve saved over my ten years teaching. They are important.
Mr. Wilson didn’t make a card. He sat silently through our last class. I don’t remember what lesson I taught that day, but, last day or not, I did make them sit through a lesson.
When class was over, they filed out, shaking my hand one at a time and wishing me well. I turned to straighten up my papers and erase the board, and Mr. Wilson was still sitting at his designated seat at the head of the table. He looked so small.
There were tears in his eyes.
“Are you okay, Mr. Wilson?”
“No.”
“Can I help you? Do you need a guard?”
“No. I didn’t want them to see me like this. It’s dangerous.”
“I can let the guard know you needed to stay after class. Take your time.”
“Chicle, I need to tell you something. You’re the only teacher who has ever tried.”
“What do you mean, Mr. Wilson?”
“Nobody ever cared before. I’m sorry I didn’t do your work. I couldn’t. I’m fifty seven, and I can’t read. But you wanted me to try. Thank you.”
He was shaking, but he didn’t make an effort to wipe the tears away. He was decidedly human. He hugged me and walked out of the classroom. I packed up and went home for the last time.
I don’t know why Mr. Wilson was in prison.
But I know why I was there.